Mу friend іѕ getting married fall οf 08 аחԁ һеr Matron οf Honor јυѕt announced tһаt ѕһе іѕ trying tο ɡеt pregnant now wіtһ һеr second baby. Mу friend wһο іѕ getting married іѕ upset tһаt ѕһе wουƖԁ рƖοt tһіѕ before һеr wedding, ѕһе feels ѕһе ѕһουƖԁ wait until аftеr һеr wedding. I wаѕ really surprised bу һеr. I know ѕһе іѕ concerned аbουt һеr Matron οf Honor finding a dress tһаt wіƖƖ fit һеr, bυt I саח′t believe ѕһе wаחtѕ һеr tο рƖасе һеr life οח hold fοr over a year. Wһаt ԁο уου rесkοח, wουƖԁ уου want уουr Matron οf Honor tο hold οf οח аחу babies during уουr wedding preparation?
Tags: babies, matron of honor, Wedding Planning
just because she is trying doesn’t mean she is going to get pregnant aptly away.
i have not had this problem, but as long as she still fit in the dress on the day, i would be find with it. things can get altered.
As long as she can stand up(or even sit) at the alter, I don’t see the problem.
No I wouldn’t be upset.I would be pleased for her.You can’t place your life on hold just because someone is getting married.The future bride is being crazy.
It depends on the person. You know, some people WOULD casually on purpose happen to be preggers at their best friends/sister’s huge day. They want attention.
But if it’s a normal person doing normal family preparation, I reckon the bride wants all the attention.
I reckon your friend is very incorrect. And the woman who is trying for another child has every aptly to. The only one she needs to consult about having family, and when is her husband.
Nobody should place their life on hold for ANYONE else’s wedding, no matter who it is. Your bride friend needs to pull out of the preparation administer a bit and realize the world doesn’t revolve around her wedding.
I would never question anyone to place THEIR life on hold for MY wedding. I reckon that is just a small selfish. They do make maternity dresses.. and besides, she is the Matron of honor…
No way!!! the plot is if she can’t make it I’ll have a backup that’s what my sister did.
I would want my friend to schedule her family preparation to suit her needs and priorities, not mine. If she was still able to be in my wedding, then that would be fantastic. If she felt she needed to bow out, then so long as she didn’t wish me ill, I’d just be delighted for her.
No, I would consider it incredibly rude and presumptuous to question someone to place her plans for a baby on hold for a year in order to make sure she’s slim for my wedding day.
Oh, and I had a pregnant bridesmaid. Okay, she found out a couple weeks before the wedding, but I wouldn’t have cared if she was on the verge of giving birth so long as she was pleased.
No, in fact I’d be thrilled that a friend I loved enough to place in such a position was going to have a baby. Your friend is a selfish, egotistical bride-zilla and should get over herself. Life doesn’t revolve around her wedding.
A lot can change between now and Fall ‘08. The matron of honor could have a child before then.
She obviously chose this person because they are accurate friends. If it is going to kill her to have someone pregnant in the wedding, she should confront her so she can find someone else. But the matron shouldn’t have to postpone her pregnancy.
People freak out too much when preparation weddings. The goal should be to bring family and friends together to celebrate a wonderful day. It shouldn’t be to micromanage everyone’s lives so you have the so-called perfect wedding.
I reckon your friend sounds like a Bridezilla - thinking the world is supposed to revolve around HER. that’s absolutely rediculous. She chose her matron of honor because she is vital to her - that shouldn’t change because she’s pregnant. I’ve seen lots of weddings that included pregnant women….no huge deal. Her attitude implies that a pregnant woman isn’t pretty or a touch. They really even make bridesmaids dresses now for expecting women!
OMG, your friend sounds like a selfish b1tch… sorry! How about she changes her wedding date to next month instead? Wow, I can’t believe anyone can even be this selfish. If I was her MOH, I would have bowed out and told her she was on her own.
A bride has NO aptly to question that her wedding party place their reproductive life on hold. That is silly and selfish to expect. I would not want my MOH to place her life on hold.
Bridezilla! How selfish is she that she wants her matron of honor to place her life on hold?!?! Isn’t marriage about the family? Doesn’t the matron of honor represent a touch like what this woman wants when she is finally married? The wedding is one day of your life-an vital one-but one day. Making a family goes on forever. I can’t believe how crazy and selfish some brides can be….
Nah… if and when she has her baby is her affair. If she has plotted to have a child it’s incorrect to question her to plot it around your wedding.
I really just recently went owing to the same situation.. Except, my matron of honor told me she would wait until after the wedding before she would get pregnant.. Low and behold, she got pregnant and her due date was 2 days before the wedding, now question any bride, but you would be really stressed out if you matron of honor could not show for your wedding, or what if she went into labor during the ceremony… When you get married it is suppose to be your day and your day only!
My day finished up pretty excellent, she was there and finished up being 3 weeks late to have her baby. And now my husband and I are the god parents…
Maybe the Matron of honor should step down, or the Bride should say a touch to her! Excellent luck!
I don’t reckon it’s incorrect for her to be upset.
1st of all the wedding isn’t until next Fall meaning that she could have had the baby by then. Even if that isn’t the case Your friend can’t question a person to place their whole life on hold for over a year for her wedding day. That is selfish and rude.
Tell your friend to get a grip and realize the world doesn’t revolve around her.
That’s very selfish. I can’t believe people are like that. If she is her best friend she should support and be pleased for her!?!?
i reckon they’re kinda both in the incorrect with this situation. on one hand, the bride has no aptly to dictate when another person can try to get pregnant, that’s just outrageous bridezilla behavior there. even if, the matron of honor shouldn’t have accepted that honor when she is preparation on getting pregnant in the first place, because the moh is a very demanding position that requires a lot of time, money, and effort. aside from the dress fitting come forth, it’s also likely that once she gets further along in the pregnancy, she’s not going to feel up to taking care of her wedding duties, because open fire on be focusing on herself and the baby (as she should.) babies always take priority with new mothers, so i reckon it would be best for all parties caught up if she either demoted herself to a regular bridesmaid or just not be in the wedding party and take on another role that doesn’t involve a specific attire and a lot of her time.
Your friend is selfish.
Um, I reckon that the bride has really lost it.
Who is she to tell people when they can and can’t have babies.
I have seen both sides of this arguement. I was a bridesmaid for my best friend and her maid oh honor had a baby 1 MONTH before the wedding. It was a disaster. The baby was being breast fed, so she had to come everywhere with us. Pictures was the worst. Car seat in the wedding van! The baby was very excellent, but it was still very tough. Also, we had spagetti strapped dresses and she had to wear a maternity bra underneath it. It looked terrible in all of the pictures. If I had been the maid of honour and been in that situation, I would have questioned the bride if I could bow out and have one o the other bridesmaids take over. The bride finished up being quite miserable with the entire situation. On the othe hand, my best friend (who was the bride at the other wedding) was trying to get pregnant when I questioned her to be my maid of honour. If she had gotten pregnant that day, she would have been about 6 months pregnant at our wedding. I told her that I like her and she is the only person I want standing up for me. If I had to, we could cut the bellly out of her dress and place black spandex there instead! (FYI - she did not end up being pregnant). One other thing to keep in mind is if someone would be available to look after the child. Is there a husband or boyfriend in the picture? But to sum this all up, I do not reckon it is aptly for the bride to place restrictions on friendships like that. Obviously she chose that woman to be her maid of honour for a reason. She should not have to place her lifeo n hold for one day. Also, if it is that vital that she have a babdy aptly away, she should maybe bow out of her maid of honour duties. I hope this helped!
That is quite selfish of your friend. The Matron of Honor has a life, and it doesn’t revolve around the Bride-To-Be. The Matron of Honor should make whatever choice is aptly for her, regardless of the upcoming wedding.
Your friend should also keep in mind that there are some adorable maternity dresses for weddings. The Matron of Honor could get a lovely dress even if she is about to have a child. Her dress could be the same color as the other bridesmaids, so that it wouldn’t look out-of-place.
I wouldn’t mind at all if one of my bridesmaids was a part of my wedding with a gorgeous baby bump!
Excellent heavens. People’s lives don’t stop because someone’s getting married! How completely selfish of the bride to expect her friend to postpone one of the most vital aspects of her own life because the bride finds it inconvenient! This one takes the cake. Sheesh!
This bride is very selfish - everyone else should place their life on hold until HER wedding is over? Get a life.
I wouldn’t live my life for anyone other than myself. If the Matron wants to try and have a baby, then so be it. If the prospective bride doesn’t like it, oh well, get someone else…
she can still do the duties of matron of honor being pregnant. if she is concerned about finding a dress get a very large size and they can hem it. (My friend was very pregnant when she got married–found a huge dress and then fixed it for her size.
Depending on when she gets pregnant–there may not be a problem.
Gee that is so egocentric of the bride. I guess she is a right Bridezilla on a power trip.
Her personal life is none of the bride’s affair. There’s nothing incorrect with having a pregnant MOH.
I agree, I mean it would throw a kink in some things, but not EVERYONES life revolves around the wedding and its kinda crappy of her to expect that. This is this woman’s family, a touch she lives with day in and day out and will forever, and when you feel the timing is aptly for another child you kinda have to go for it in my opinion. A baby is this woman’s LIFE, the wedding, as huge a deal as it is is 1 day and you can’t expect people to place off LIFE for 1 day. The people you pick for that kind of position are the closest to you, and how could you expect such a accurate friend to forgo all her happiness b/c you might have a small more distress with a dress…I sure wouldn’t!
Wow…how completely selfish of your friend. Everyone else doesn’t have to place their lives on hold just because she’s getting married!
If she were free, I might be worried…But for pete’s sake, she’s a developed woman, who’s trying to place together a family with her husband! Besides that, if the wedding is over a year away, she may give birth long before the wedding day comes around!
They make all kinds of fantastic dresses that can accommodate pregnant bellies…Your friend should have nothing to worry about!
This was really going to happen to me. My MOH has been putting off getting preggo for years. They have finally chose to get prego. She told me ahead of time so I made sure to find a dress that would fit her tummy if she did get preggo. Then my bro called and his wife was preggo!! (She is a bridemaid) Lucky I had plotted for this! Unfortunatley my bro’s wife lost the baby and my MOH hasn’t been able to get preggo. If they get preggo now they will not (Or barely) be showing by Oct. Anyway, my top? I was pleased for them to bring a life into this gorgeous world and I made sure it would work in the wedding if they did. I feel it is selfish to question someone to wait. Family are a blessing no matter when they come.
Wow your friend sounds alittle rude. I would not change the timeing of a child around a friends wedding. So what if she has a preg maid of honor. I’ll prob be preg when my small sister gets married. I dont reckon that should matter.And one of my best friends will prob be preg for my wedding. And thats fine with me. Why place your life on hold for a freinds wedding?
Ok, weddings are vital, but not stop your life and place your family plans on hold for over a year vital. That’s ridiculous. What if the MOH told the bride "I plot on getting pregnant soon, but I’d like to be there, so place off the wedding until after the baby is born and I have time to shed that extra baby weight. Thanks." She would not have it. It’s crazy to reckon that’s a reasonable request. Talk about self-centered.
Just because she questioned her to be the MOH, does not mean the MOH should place her life on hold.
If my MOH or bridesmaids wanted to get pregnant, I would be more than pleased for them. It will change some plans, like dress sizes, but other than that I reckon it would be ok.
Your friend just can’t expect other people to really drop their lives just because of her wedding. She shouldn’t be such a bridezilla. The matron of honor is not going to steal the bride’s thunder. Nowadays, you can buy maternity bridesmaids dresses. (at davids marriage they even let you wear a small pad that lets you know how you will look so far along.) Your friend should be pleased for the girl preparation to get pregnant…just as im sure the soon to be pregnant girl is elated to have a friend thats in like and getting married.
Why should she hold off on having family. What assurances would the MOH have that the bride will really get married, esp. if it’s a year away?
Wow, people really reckon their weddings are more vital than their friends having babies???? I cannot reckon of anything more selfish than that, the wedding is not the be all and end all of life, if I was a MOH and my friend told me not to get pregnant I’d tell her to stick her MOH job where the sun doesn’t shine, I cannot believe how egotistical that is!!!
I reckon your friend is being unreasonable. Nobody else should have to place their lives on hold because of someone’s wedding. Now, maybe if she was due at the time of the wedding I can see the bride being a bit upset (in case the MOH may not be able to attend, etc) but as long as she can stand for the photos and during the ceremony, why not?
I know the brides feelings, but she is also being selfish to expect the MOH to place her baby plans on hold just for her wedding. Would she do that for someone else? I doubt it.