Although tһе wedding іѕ years οff, I οftеח find myself wondering һοw I аm going tο pull іt οff. I аm Wiccan, mу boyfriend іѕ Atheist. Mу family іѕ a mix οf liberal аחԁ conservative Christians, һіѕ family іѕ mostly more οf tһе conservative Christian type (tο mу knowledge). I want tο incorporate tһουɡһtѕ οf a handfasting, bυt חοt ѕο much tһаt іt becomes obvious tο those attending. I wουƖԁ prefer חοt tο һаνе a minister, οr preacher, etc (although perhaps a minister frοm a UU church wουƖԁ work), аחԁ I don’t want a whole bunch οf "God tһіѕ, God tһаt, amen amen." Dοеѕ anyone һаνе аחу tips, personal tаƖеѕ, οr tһουɡһtѕ οח һοw tο ԁο a wedding such аѕ tһіѕ? I still want іt tο bе personal аחԁ spiritual, bυt anything bυt Christian. Sοmе tһουɡһtѕ I һаԁ wеrе things Ɩіkе replacing tһе well Ɩονеԁ "Unity Candle" wіtһ tһе tieing οf hands wіtһ аח explanation οf wһаt іt means tο υѕ.
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Why not base your wedding around that which all weddings should be based on. Like. I mean regardless of religion, isn’t that why you’re getting married? Because you like another?
Like is non-denominational and doesn’t care whether you are black or white or red or pink with blue polkadots. It doesn’t care whether or not you believe in God, Buddah, Muhammed, or whatever dogma you claim as your own or by what name you call your God or Goddess as the case may be.
Honestly, I believe that like is the only thing common in all religions. And in my opinion, is the right religion.
what if you had a non religious person hold your ceremony? or you could get eloped then just have a reception that way you skip the ceremony entirely
that sounds excellent and creative telll them you want your own traditions and go from there
Los Vegas baby
You and your man should quit being silly and embrace the TRUTH like the rest of your family. Then you can have a wonderful church wedding where all delight in.
Well I first must say Wiccan! I didn’t know anyone still practiced that. Excellent for you. You say your husband is also Atheist. Well who’s wedding is this? Your family’s? His Family’s? No it’s your wedding and his. Don’t worry about pleasing both families do what you want to do because it’s your wedding. Everyone else already had their chance to get married and have a wedding. As far as how the ceremony will go…my advice is many Wiccan books can tell you how to incorporate such rituals in a wedding or how certain cermonies are performed. You can also look online or go to a library and look up book on different sort or ceremonies or weddings. Excellent Luck and Best Wishes
keep it simple, simple themes, simple thoughts, simple imagery. A lot of the Christian imagery works well for pagans as well. I have an alter set up in my house, but for my Christian friends I show them that the candles are for the Trinity, but also could be for the Lord, Lady, and Spirit as well as the Tri Goddess, The bowl of salt for earth can represents Jesus since he is the salt of the earth. The bowl of water can also represents Jesus since he is the water of life. The elements represents the elements of creation. Things have a lot of different meanings to a lot of different people. So keep it simple and if someone questions, clarify it in a way they will accept. I know this doesn’t exactly answer your question, but I hope it helps
Say the Hail Mary, look like a virgin and dive into a holy martimony !!
What you need to do is elope to Las Vegas…….You don’t even need a ceremony…….
Get on a cruise ship and have the Cpatain marry you.
Maybe 2 ceremonies? One private for your wiccan beliefs and one to keep the folks pleased.
Darling it is your wedding… for YOU TWO!!!! Do what you want to do and if they are offended then they have a problem! I am sure you sat owing to many church weddings that you felt uncomfortable in. There will be no way to please everyone and if you try, everyone will still find a touch to grip about… just do it for you.
I know what you mean. I’m not wiccan…really I have no thought what I am. I guess the best way to describe it would be spiritual. I’m still trying to find my way. I do know, even if, that I am not christian or any of ther many branches. My hubby and I are already married but were quite young at the time. I was 15 and he was 18. Guess you could say it was a "shot gun" wedding! Anyhow…he and I are preparation on renewing our vows. I want to make everything perfect because the first one was thrown together quickly and all of the elements were chose by our parents. I just have no thought on what to include and how to do it in such a way that it doesn’t offend anyone. Both of our families are christian. If you come up with any excellent thoughts I want to hear them! To be quite honest….you seem like a nice person and I would rather delight in language with you about this subject and hopefully becoming friends. If you would like someone to talk with as well please sene me an email. Take care and I hope you have an incredible day!
First of all…I too am wiccan and my husband is not…There truly is no "wiccan wedding". A handfasting is literally only for one year and one day…You should have a handfasting and then after the year and a day is up, if you’ve lasted *divorce rate is unbelievable* then you can have a "habitual" wedding…I really like the thought of a representative from a UU Church, that way no one is offended…UU Churches have no dogma, excellent thought!! Kudos to you…Besides if you really wanted to have a wiccan wedding you’d have to find someone that is ordained…AND WICCAN WEDDINGS AREN’T RECOGNIZED AS LEGAL IN MANY STATES!!! better check into that one….
My husband and I are Christian… but I wanted to include several Pagan "rituals" in our ceremony. When you read about their meaning and description some of them are so clean (especially the handfasting)!
To me, none of the Pagan wedding ceremony stuff was ANTI-christian…. as a matter of fact lots of current Christian wedding practices came from Pagan roots (the term "tie the knot" comes from handfasting). So I don’t reckon that anyone would be offended by the presence of a handfasting ceremony or anything else. It is a gorgeous ceremony.
What I WOULD urge is making a program for the ceremony. Many people use this to clarify what songs are being played and the order of the ceremony and who is who. But you could include in your program the meaning of the handfasting ceremony or whatever else you use. Don’t hide it… clarify it!
My uncle married us and we wrote our ceremony by alternative and choosing things we liked from all sorts of sources. (It started with a monologue from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin). We also did the "sand ceremony". And we clarified the imagery of the wedding ring and why it goes on the ring finger. In the end it only had one or two mild references to God. It was more personal and meaningful to us than the typical scripture verses people use and our whole family loved it!
PS: I reckon the movie Braveheart included a handfasting ceremony