Wһаt’s tһе first thing уου tһουɡһt аbουt - уουr wedding dress, tһе venue? Hοw long ԁіԁ tһе whole preparation administer take?
Wһаt decisions ԁіԁ tһе bride mаkе, аחԁ wһісһ ones ԁіԁ tһе groom mаkе? Hοw much ԁіԁ уου involve уουr friends іח tһе сһοісе mаkіחɡ administer, аחԁ іf уου ԁіԁ, wіtһ wһісһ раrtѕ?
Wһеrе ԁіԁ уου find all tһе things уου need - magazines, online?
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Although we have postponed our wedding until next year, we are still preparation it, so this is what we did.
1. Date and Budget
2. Venue
3. Guest list
4. Catering
5. Best Man and Bridesmaid
6. Dresses and suits etc
7. plants
8. Transport
The date was mutually chose between the two of us, as was the guest list and budget.
My groom to be chose on food, transport, best man and what they will be wearing. He also chose the rings.
I have chosen my dress and the cake and done most of the research about venues, we have not yet chose on a venue yet as we changed the date and our original choice is not available for our new date. I also thought about bridesmaids, but chose not to have any. I’ve also chosen the flowers.
Our final choice of venue will be a joint choice.
I have not caught up any friends in making any decisions. I have consulted my mum for a second opinion on my dress even if!!
I found help on line mostly, but I did look at one magazine and got some thoughts from there. It took us around 4 months to get everything organised before we post poned (so my b/f can close his exams at work before we marry)
We told our parents and they started preparation. We OK everything.
The first thing you have to do is pick the date, and the first person to contact is whomever will be marrying you. We contacted the priest, because that date was most vital to book first, and we had to have premarital counselling. Next was booking the venue, because we had a ballpark thought of number of guests, and the catering. Guest lists were next, along with deciding on attendants. In most suitcases, you need 8 months or a year, depending on where you live, because of the venue mostly. Bride and groom made decisions together, except it was stuff like wedding favours and decorating, which he really didn’t care about. Friends were not caught up at all in choice making or preparation at all - mostly got advice from family members.
My husband had lots of fantastic thoughts for our wedding and wanted to be very caught up in the preparation so I let him take the reigns; especially since we got married in his church. He also made our wedding cake since he is a pastry chef with over 15 years experience. We went to book stores and bought wedding planner books - but for us, we got engaged 3 months after meeting so we really took our time preparation the wedding down to the very last detail. We got engaged in 2003 and married in 2005 - what was fantastic is we never felt rushed and everything came together perfectly.
Sign up for My Knot on http://www.theknot.com. I don’t reckon I’d be able to do my wedding without it. It gives you a month-by-month check list of what you should be doing and thinking about. It’s kept me very organized and very sane. On top of the checklist, there are pages and pages of online advice (from how to take up invites to how to unask a best man), style thoughts, and even a store for favors and that stuff. Congrats!
The dress & the place came up pretty quickly. I was pretty set on my place, then I found a dress before offically booking my location. I was worried about getting it altered & such. The whole preparation, during the past 4 months (getting married this March) took only about 6 weeks. I found everything I wanted very quickly. I’ve made most of the decisions, the groom threw in his opinions & supports in there from time to time as well even if. As far as finding things I did look online for the most part, but even that I didn’t do alot, most played out in my head. The only thing I bought a magazine for was for the cake. I couldn’t find a cake online, but I managed to find a UK magazine just for pictures of wedding cakes.
We chose the date first…that was a joint choice. I picked my dress. He will be alternative out his tux. We originally plotted to have the wedding in my parents home (they’re building it now), but due to construction hold-ups we’re using the house that my fiance and I are renting…I didn’t want an in church wedding and he wanted a touch small and at home. We handmade the invitations as a team and calculated the programs. I picked out the cake (all he said was that he wanted a habitual white cake- no cupcakes, no doughnuts). We both had input for the other food. I picked out all the flowers and decorations. We picked out the color to paint the living room together. He figured out how to manage the limited parking. I bought a few books from Books A Million’s marriage section and a few issues of Martha Stewart’s magazine. We will have been engaged for a year the month of our wedding, but we didn’t start preparation until August for April.
First thing is make a budget, u can do this on the web site
The Knot, this is a fantastic starting top.
I guess first thing I thought about is best man and maid of honor!
First was finding the venue. That helped steer us towards our date. Next was the music, flowers, bridesmaids/groomsman attire. I really made every choice on my own (except setting the date), but that’s just me. I had a certain thought of what I wanted, so it made all the decisions very simple. I found browsing magazines gave me lots of thoughts and inspiration to choose from, and also things I was sure I did not want too. The whole administer started last year around this time, the wedding is in July. You can do it in much shorter time, I just like to plot, plot, and plot again!
We went together to several places and chose on the venue, then we found an officiant (book him/her early, as they book well in advance). Book the photographer, caterer, band/dj, early on as well for the same reason.
Who makes which decisions is entirely up to the couple. Usually it’s the bride who makes most of them, as most men don’t want to have much to do with it, but I see that’s not necessarily the case here.
I got most of our things online-between ebay, Exclusivelyweddings.com, and from "finder sites" for the officiant and bakery. They have those sites for photographers and caterers too. It takes a lot of legwork out of the equation.
We’ve got five months to go. I started the preparation when we first were engaged with 19 months to go to the huge day (most people felt that was far too soon but I don’t unhappiness it) We’re still finalizing the details, like the chat with the caterer about the menu, the final visit with the Reverend, making the favors and such.
My fiance isn’t into the preparation, but he did want to be consulted before any final decisions were made.
Congratulations.
I’m a Marketing Manager so I plot events evenly, so maybe it’s not honest that I answer this… but I was proposed to at the end of April of 2006 and had our wedding plotted (reception place booked, photographer booked, dress picked out, etc) by the middle of June. 6 weeks….
My first thought was about the reception (generally the most expensive). Even if, I handled all preparation the same way — TONS of internet research!! When I found 3 options that were ones I not only liked but were in my budget, I got my fiancee caught up. Where we chose, we booked. No thinking it over, no "let’s sleep on it" nothing. Just go forward.
The thing that took the longest? I had my dress made… took 6 weeks.