What are some marriage and wedding ideas for a Christian woman and a muslim man?
I am a Christian woman who is engaged to a muslim man. We are trying to decide on how and where we want to get married but it seems to be a problem with us in deciding. He cannot be married by a preacher in a church and I don’t want to be married in a mosque so we are limited on ideas. Any ideas that will accommodate both of our traditions and beliefs?
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I was in the same boat. My Muslim husband and I were married in April of this year in an outdoor ceremony by a chaplain from the hospital my mother was in. We found our officiant who is a close family friend and was ok with our service. We used God, but did not use Jesus in our ceremony. His parents wanted us to perform a Nikkah before the traditional wedding, so we did make our nikkah with one another shortly before our traditional backyard wedding.
That is my best suggestion to you, we were very happy with our results in our wedding. Congratulations and salam alaikum.
Only thing left is a non-denominational approach, maybe done by a Justice of the Peace, a Judge, or Clerk of Circuit Court. As far as he may be concerned, there will always be a problem, because his family will never accept you if you don’t convert to Islam.
Well you should be able to do it any way you like, since neither one of you are following your beliefs. You would not have this problem if you did. So do whatever you think would be lovely and memorable.
Here’s an idea for marriage but you’re not going to like it….don’t get married. Christian and Muslim beliefs are too different and conflicting and if you can’t compromise on how to get married, just imagine how difficult life is going to be once you are married. Life is hard enough….I say really evaluate if this is the person you should marry. If you are a Christian, then you know that God says to not be unequally yolked. Differences in opinions over religious beliefs can be a leading cause for divorce….I say at least think about it and pray about it.
If you truly seek the Lord in your heart, why do you ache to join with an heathen? Share the Word of the Lord with him that he may be sanctified by Christ. Surely you would not want this man to be judged and found wanting in the end of days, even if he be a stranger unto you, much less if he be a man that you love.
Follow the Word of the Lord absolutely, never once bend your knee to other gods nor to the ways of men.
May the Lord bless you and give you His eternal wisdom, sister.
Can he be married by a muslim minister anywhere that is not a church or mosque? If so, perhaps you could arrange for the ceremony to be co-officiated by his minister and your minister together. As for the "where", sometimes thinking outside the box makes it all the more memorable. When I got married 10 years ago, I chose a small city park’s gazebo that had a pavilion very nearby. The ceremony was held in the gazebo, a very large one, and the reception was in the pavilion. It was at 10:00 am on Saturday in mid Spring. The sun was brightly shining and a cool breeze was gently blowing and I will never forget how my sister’s hair sparkled in the sunlight. I can still see the day and place in my memory as if it were only yesterday. I really don’t think "where" is very important as long as it a place that you both like, a place of peace and beauty.
Best Wishes on your upcoming marriage, may it last forever!
Depends on how religious you are. If you aren’t really that religious, you might want to reconsider the mosque idea, or perhaps something nondenominational. On the other hand if you are quite religious…yeah, it’s a problem
I’d really reconsider. How are you going to handle holidays and what to say to the children once they arrive? You are really setting yourself up for trouble.