Mу fiancee іѕ more worried аbουt playing video games tһаח һе іѕ аbουt preparation ουr wedding. Hе doesn’t really know everything аbουt weddings аחԁ wһаt all goes іחtο tһеm. I’m going out οf mу way tο mаkе sure wе һаνе a beach wedding Ɩіkе wе want. I know һе іѕ excited аbουt tһе wedding аѕ much аѕ I аm. Am I incorrect fοr being mаԁ tһаt һе doesn’t seem tο bе аѕ helpful wіtһ ουr wedding preparation аѕ I rесkοח һе ѕһουƖԁ bе? I саח ԁο a lot bυt I саח′t ԁο іt all mу stuff. Wе′re both 23 аחԁ wіƖƖ bе 24 wһеח wе ɡеt married.
Mе аחԁ mу mother don’t talk anymore andshe’s חοt invited tο tһе wedding. Sһе һаѕ always bееח abusive іח еνеrу way ѕһе сουƖԁ. Sһе even tοƖԁ mе growing up tһаt іf I out-οf-date аחу person ѕһе wουƖԁ kіƖƖ mе. Mу best friend wһο іѕ suppost tο bе mу maid οf honor hasn’t really talked tο mе much іח tһе last years. Tһе min ѕһе ɡοt a חеw boyfriend ѕһе completely forgot I wаѕ tһеrе. Sһе married tһе guy ѕο I see һеr even less. Mу step-mom іѕ 2 months younger tһаח mе. Sο іt’d bе more һеr alternative stuff ѕһе Ɩіkеѕ rаtһеr tһаח аח һοחеѕt аחѕwеr. It mаkеѕ mе even more stressed. I’ve gotten tο tһе top sometime wһеrе I јυѕt want tο tеƖƖ һіm еіtһеr рƖοt tһе wedding οr I’m חοt gonna ԁο іt. I know іt’s a girl thing tο bе excited. I rесkοח I need tο visit a spa. LOL.
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I’m 21 and my husband (to be again) is 23. We are getting remarried and in a church ceremony next October and he isn’t that invovled he just tells me whatever I want, "honey I want to make sure you have the wedding you want" well I keep on telling him its OUR wedding but it rarely sinks in, I finally told him one day look either you help plot and show more interest or there isn’t going to be a wedding next year, and your video games get all the damned attention! period, end of discussion, that changed things around.
You have a aptly to be mad but you need to talk to him and get him more invovled.
Best of Luck, hope all goes smoothly
That is a guy thing. We just don’t like to plot weddings. He should still make an effort even if, so I reckon you have the aptly to be upset if he won’t make an effort. I at least went with my wife to pick out the reception hall, flowers, etc. I despised every small of it but I did it and so should he.
Most guys do not help with the plans. It would be nice if he would help, but the largest help should come from your maid of honor and your mother.
Guys are not into this and your better off doing the preparation yourself…
Guys aren’t into weddings like girls are. It’s just a fact. He doesn’t know the different between a white dress or an ivory dress. He doesn’t know why the linens you order were incorrect. You say they are marroon, but you wanted burgandy. All he sees is red.
If you are anything like me, you doubtless don’t realize you are dull him with small details he doesn’t care to know about. I could see myself rambling away about favors or centerpieces to I’m blue in the face. I know my boyfriend would just shut down after the first 2 sentences.
What you should do is just question him general questions. Make sure he has input on the venue, the time, the tux and the food.
Guys generally like to eat. So, maybe have him reckon about what he’d like to have on the menu.
Question him to help with certain details, but not everything.
Honestly, I would want my boyfriend to be caught up in the huge decisions. Like which venue to book, which photographer to use and how much money to spend. Stuff like that.
But, everything else. Like favors, centerpieces, guest books, bridesmaid’s attire, linens, etc ; I won’t care.
I don’t reckon you are incorrect for being annoyed. I’m in the same boat myself. If he’s anything like my fiance, he might really show an interest in the areas of food, music, and honeymoon. Question for his help there. If he can at least make the decisions in those categories it will take some of the pressure off you and you can follow thru with the details.
Do you maybe have some friends or your mom or future mother in law that want to help. Don’t be worried to question, you’d be surprised how much they want to.
Excellent luck and Congrats!
lol. how amusing. you know, my fiance is so caught up he wants to take over the preparation! lol. he just doesn’t know that my barbie’s had a scaled down version of the wedding i want when i was five.
so maybe, somewhere out there there is a pleased medium.
just question him questions about it instead of asking for opinions. simple one choice or the other questions like "honey, would you like to be married accurate to the water or under the pravilion that is away from the waves a bit?" also, i have found that it helps when they have a touch to look at. like with colors, have color swatches with you, have pictures with you, etc.
but always try to keep it to two choices (in other terms, two that YOU like) and if he makes a choice, stick to it and don’t question again, that will just incense him.
hope this helps!
excellent luck!
When I got married, my husband wanted to know the following details about our wedding day:
Where it was
What time he needed to be there
What he was supposed to wear
What food were we going to eat at the reception
and finally
How much does this cost
That was it. He didn’t care about my bridesmaids dresses, flower preparations, if I wore flats or 3" heels (I chose flats), etc. I reckon he may have helped pick the song we danced to as well. Some guys (most really) just aren’t into wedding preparation like girls are.
While you may have a aptly to be upset with him over not helping with the wedding preparation like you reckon he should, being upset with him isn’t going to gain you much except a fiance who’s ticked with you as well. Give him specific jobs to do. For example say, "Honey, would you please help me stuff our wedding invitations on Tuesday night?" Don’t question if he’d mind doing it, don’t question if he can do it (of course he can) question if he WILL help you do it. If he doesn’t show much interest in alternative flowers, dresses, etc, then austerely show him the final choice, and question him if he likes it as well. He’ll doubtless say "If you like it, then I like it." Just remember to question him if he WILL help you (of course he will) and give him a touch specific to do.
Excellent luck!
you are going to be the main coordinator. pick out everything on your own, but question him first about liquor and food and who to invite. certainly give him tasks to complete. you shouldn’t be doing it all, but you might be preparation it all.
i gave him things like, get us from the wedding to our hotel, seal invitation envelopes, work on DJ playlist, find someone to marry us…
lol i despise to tell you this but im preparation my wedding by myself, my maid of honor is sooo busy (Which i expect, its ok with me) my mother doesn’t know anything about weddings, her first marriage failed and she eloped for the second one…..
my fiance plays games…get used to it..
men don’t really care about wedding preparation, even if your upset about it and he tries to do it out of the kindness of his heart, it may be a touch you dont want anyway.
I did most of the grunt work myself, even if I hired a wedding planner for the rehearsal and the day of the wedding.
Excellent Luck
Give it up most men will not help. I thinks mine will say yes to anything if he thought I would leave him alone about preparation. Try asking his mom or a aunt to help. Or find a friend who is willing to help you. If all else failes question here most everyone will try to help. Excellent luck