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this website is helpful, it tells you by what month out you should have things done by. First thing is to pick a date, so you have a touch to tell the venues. http://www.weddingcram.com/wcp.....meline.htm
Preparation has to start with a budget. Who is paying for the wedding? If you can’t afford deposits, in my opinion you’re already shopping above your price top.
Well first you need to figure out your budget and how much you can spend. Then you need to choose on a place to get married and where the reception is going to be. Your wedding doesn’t have to be really expensive, my aunt got married a few years back and she had my mom make the cake and do her hair. The decorations weren’t really much, and the reception was at her daughter’s house. My mom also made food for the reception, it was a small wedding even if. As far as decor, if you have someone crafty in the family or friends groups question them to help. You can make your own invitations if you aren’t having too many people. Or print them out yourself and save money. A lot of craft stores have nifty things you can incorporate into a wedding. My husband and I decorated our small girl’s nursery with things we found at a craft store and a few other items and her room counting a rug has cost us about $60! Get creative and you can cut costs a lot that way.
? Figuring out your budget is going to be the most vital part of the wedding preparation! Plot your budget & stick to it! Shop around for better deals at 10 places instead of just 2. Also, diy, diy, diy! You can make your own centerpieces, invites, favors, etc. This will greatly reduce the cost. Also go with a grcoery store florist, instead of a high end professional florist. That will help cut down on cost also.
Check out http://www.weddingchannel.com or http://www.theknot.com Both of these websites have checklists for each month what you should have done! Excellent Luck & Congratulations!
go with the dress then with the flowers then make sure your husband suite is go get your bride maid dresses ready then see what church you can get married in get a priest to marry you and your husband… Let you fam Know about the marriage where at and what day an his fam at the same time get invitations out so you friends no about it and his friends if you order a touch make sure it is aptly the 2 week before the wedding and before all this make sure you have a bride planner that can plot all of this a very excellent one
You must first start by setting a realistic budget. Remember the wedding is about your marriage. With that being said, some of the most gorgeous weddings are intimate and simple. The ceremony will be the most inexpensive, it’s the reception that will cost you. If your wedding date is next year, now would be a excellent time to bargain shop. You can find your dress online or off the rack for a fraction of the costs. If you sign up on the knot or other wedding websites, you can get on the message boards. A lot of brides, buy items for their wedding and have no use for them afterwards. You can buy those items to use at your reception. If you have not selected a wedding date, try to brilliant a date that is in the off season, usually the colder months. You may be able to get a better deal on a reception location. Try to brilliant several locations, since you don’t have much for deposits aptly now, when you do have your deposit, that facility may or may not be available on your date. A excellent place to start is by figuring out what you want. Get magazines and determine your colors and style, and remember to keep it simple, especially since you’re on a budget. Congratulations
Hi and congratulations!
The very, very FIRST thing you need to do is to establish you BUDGET. Why? Because, as you know, everything needed/wanted for your wedding will revolve around how much you have to spend.
If you have a small budget….NO problem! Don’t hesitate to go in a different direction than the normal dinner, drinking, dancing type of reception. Also know that the ceremony part is not the largest cost factor….obviously, it is the reception. But….it doesn’t need to break the bank! Many on this forum on doing small (50-75 people max) weddings and having a touch at a park or in someone’s backyard. Obivously, both of these types of venues cut down substantially on rental fees and food costs.
Another thought is that you do not need to provide at meal at all for your guests. Have a touch mid-day and supply a diversity of cheeses/crackers, fruit and dips, and desserts along with some beverages. Again, very nice and elegant and still low cost.
Excellent luck in your preparation!
start with alternative out your maid of honor and have her help you with choice making, thats what I did first, secondly set up your date most places require 6 months advance others less or more, secondly get a list of people who you may consider that will help you sponsor your wedding such as family and friends
First Congratulations!
First thing you need to choose on is the budget. are the parents assisting financially? If so fin out how much they are willing to contribute, then add in what you and your fiance can contribute.
Call a Wedding Planner (check out weTV and click on ‘we go marriage’.)and set up an appointment. You may also want to check out some of the programs on the station. The best one is "Whose Wedding is it Anyway". Here you will really get to see the planners at work. There have been shows where a planner will pull together a ‘Platinum" affair on a shoe string budget, plotted weddings when the couple is thousands of miles away, and shows where they have to pull the reigns in on the bride to keep her within her budget. It will also give you some thoughts.
Before the appointment choose on and have the following info ready:
THE BUDGET
The date
Aproximate number of guests
What kind of wedding—Formal (with sit down dinner) or Informal (with fewer guests and lighter menu)
Are you preparation to have a wedding at a church
Have you contacted the church
Have you checked out a venue? If not what type of place are you looking for.
What do you want for a theme (ie. Winter Wonderland, Spring Magic, Harvest ball, etc)
What is your color scheme?
What kind of flowers do you want
What type of centerpieces, church deco?
Wedding cake (this sets the theme and is the focal top of attention)
Have you gotten your gown, if not what type of gown are you looking for
What kind of invitations
This may seem overwhelming but with the help of a excellent planner, he/she will walk with you owing to the entire administer. They will see that all of your wishes come right and keep you within your budget. They will help you with EVERYTHING, invitations, cake tasting, decorations etc., etc., They know whom and where to call to get exactly what you need at discount prices, and will make suggestions when needed. On the day of the wedding they will se to it that everyone in the Marriage Party is dressed and where they are supposed to be on time, and that the activities at the reception site are also on schedule. The also will head off any problems that crop up so that you can relax and delight in your day.
I wouldn’t get too upset with the fiance. Most of the times all they want to know is where they are supposed to be and what time to show up. As the date gets closer he will perk up a bit. Don’t be too hard on him, you don;t want to turn into a BRIDEZILLA!
Have fun preparation and best wishes for you both.
You have to start talking to your fiance. Why doesn’t he want to talk about it? The marriage was his thought, he proposed. It’s not "your" wedding. It’s YOUR wedding…his and yours.
Sounds like he will be letting you handle all the work after you are married. You’d best question some serious questions of him about what he thinks marriage is. Does he reckon you are shared director? Or, does he reckon whatever you are preparation HE can afford and will pay for?
When you both are ready to buy a house is he going to let you shop for it and make the decisions and figure out how you are going to pay for it?
If you get very sick and need help making decisions is he going to tell you he doesn’t want to talk about it?
My advice. Get some brochures from very expensive places and announce what you are preparation and how much the wedding is going to cost. Tell him he will have to help you pay for it. These places could be out of the people. You have heard of "destination weddings" where everything is a package…counting airfare and hotel rooms for all your guests (that you will have to pay for). Wedding in Hawaii, glide on to Japan for a honeymoon. I’m sure after he’s heard what you plot by yourself, he’ll talk about it
My feeling is that he is either overworked or immature. Neither of these makes a excellent husband. Postpone the plans until you reckon it owing to.
p.s. Did he pick out your date ring all by himself? Wouldn’t it have been nice if you both talked about what kind, color and size you wear?
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Congrats!
First of all, talk with your fiance about setting a date and figure out what your budget will be for your wedding and reception and who will be footing the bill. Take heart, your fiance may not want to talk about it now because of the disorder of the economy. Even if, you can set a date a year from now and save for the huge day. This recession may be over by the end of the year.
Depending on who is paying, your parents and/or your fiance’s parents may want to add to the guest list. If they’re paying, the etiquette is that they can invite whomever they want to invite. If you and your fiance are paying then it’s really your choice who is invited. Once you know who is paying, you’ll have a excellent thought of the budget and what venue and vendors you can afford.
I made my own wedding preparation book using a binder and printed a phto of us for the cover sleeve, the word "Our Wedding Day" and our wedding date. Inside had tabs for venues, caterer, flowers, photographer, DJ, centerpieces, favors, attire, jewelry etc. I kept their contact information and any detailed information that I needed as well as pictures.
In the back, I kept folders for all contracts and receipts. It’s very vital that your KEEP ALL YOUR RECEIPTS. I used a wedding preparation checklist from the back of a magazine and kept it in my binder crossing off items as they were done. You can also find such check lists on theknot.com Just make sure you do everything on your list.
I kept a small pad dedicated to the wedding to take notes whenever I needed to do that. Keep a list of any items you order online and their expected arrival date.
Give and all the necessary people such as vendors your buzz number and email take up so they can get back to you and keep in touch.
I also made an Excel spreadsheet of our budget to keep track of all expenses and to compare between packages at 3 different venues.
Be sure to order your gown at least 7-6 months in advance and send out your invitations 6 weeks before the wedding. Theweddingtracker.com is a fantastic tool also for your wedding website and keeping track of R.S.V.Ps. You can also set up your table seating there. After the R.S.V.P. deadline, split up your "nonresponses" with your bridesmaids, groom, mom, etc. and start calling to verify attendance.
Give your groom a TO DO list. A excellent TO Do list for the groom will include:
- Making sure the groomsmen have bought/rented their suits and accessories in time.
- The groom is also responsible for purchasing his groomsmen’s gifts.
- Another thing on this list a groom can do is to coordinate with a friend to look after your home while the two of you or away.
-Purchasing wedding indemnity.
- Preparation the honeymoon!
The day of our wedding we had a day of coordinator to keep things in succession smoothly that day. If you’re preparation your own wedding, that’s the time to relenquish some control so that you can delight in the day. It goes by soooo quick.
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BUDGET PLANNING
You can have a BEAUTIFUL wedding on a budget and no one would be the wiser.
GUEST LIST: This can be you largest saver. Keeping your guest list small will cut your expenses immeasurably. Make a list for your side of the family and have your fiance make one too. Once you have an thought of the total number, you’ll know how large of a space you’ll need.
My second tip is DIY, DIY, DIY! There are so many items that you can diy for your wedding if you have time and it becomes so personalized. You can get your wedding party to help you too. You can make save-the-dates, invitations, aisle runner, guestbook, bouquet, boutineers, ring bearer pillow, pew markers, programs, menus, escort cards, table numbers, simple centerpieces, favors, etc. Check out theknot.com for thoughts or google "DIY wedding."
CEREMONY: Low-cost places
the beach
public park (call and question about any fees)
firestation hall
local swim club
local church
RECEPTION: Venue costs can vary. Our banquet room was $700 to rent. I’ve read of others being $1400 - $4,000. Costs can also depend upon the day your reception is held. Saturday evening receptions are usually more expensive than daytime Saturday, Friday, Sunday, or any other day during the week.
Low-cost places for reception:
- Community focal top
- Lodge
- College focal top
- American Legion Hall (I went to the one here for a dance recently and was shocked to learn how huge it was and with an all hardwood floor perfect for dancing.)
- Church reception room or fellowship hall (may not allow dancing)
CATERER: The cost of a caterer can vary. My venue offered catering for about $65 per person for a dinner buffet and an open bar. That was brilliant. Some can be more expensive. Some can even be cheaper. Some venues will allow you to bring your own alcohol and this can reduce your cost. Tip: One friend of mine negotiated getting charged per drink instead of per person per hour for her alcoholic beverages. That also helped with the cost. Another option for drinks is to do just wine and beer or don’t supply alcohol at all. I don’t urge a cash bar because that’s considered tacky. They are your guests, so you don’t want them paying for anything.
If you want to go the inexpensive route for food, you can have a brunch or lunch instead of dinner. Sit down meals can be more expensive than buffets or food stations. I prefer buffets/food stations because they are usually less expensive, the food is hot, and I like choices. Sometimes when a waiter brings you a meal at a sit-down, the meal can be cold. Tip: Another option is to just supply cocktails and appetizers around 6pm if that’s what you can afford or you can just supply cake and punch around 3:00pm.
You could try a restaurant for the reception. Even if, some restaurants can be just as costly as other venues.
Alternatively, you can have a pot-luck reception for a casual informal wedding. Everyone will like showing their best dish. You would just coordinate who’s bringing what so that you don’t have duplications.
CAKE: Research and book a bakery or cake baker after attending a cake tasting. You can have a groom’s cake if you want, but it isn’t necessary. Some couples use Publix, Walmart, or Sam’s Club for low cost wedding cakes. Tip: Some couples use a dummy layer in their cake to look excellent for photos and have a sheet cake in the back to supply. You can have a baker make a simple frosted cake for you and buy parchment flowers, sugar paste flowers and/or shells, fresh flowers, or silk flowers, and decorate the cake austerely yourself. Most of the cost is in the decorating.
FLOWERS: Buy flowers wholesale at a website like http://www.fiftyflowers.com to save money. They were mentioned in a recent theknot.com article.
GIFTS, DECORATIONS, FAVORS: Check for coupons before you buy at sites like retailmenot.com BTW, favors are not necessary. Check http://www.efavormart.com for inexpensive table overlays and chair tiebacks that are cheaper than the cost of rentals.
You can make simple candle centerpieces by purchasing candles in bulk and glass containers at Michael’s or other craft supplies like that. Also check out this website: http://www.giftsforonegiftsforall.com... for inexpensive candelabras.
PHOTOGRAPHER: If you hire someone just starting out that person may just want more experience, and can give you a fantastic deal.
Check out their portfolio first before you hire.
WEDDING PLANNER: Tip: If you hire an event preparation student, that person may just want the experience as well.
WEDDING GOWN: Check David’s Marriage for their normal $99 gown sales or other savings. Check with designers for their trunk shows, go to a Filene’s Basement In succession of the Brides. You can order wedding gowns online, but be careful where you buy it. You want to make sure that the quality is excellent.
BRIDESMAIDS: Yes, in the U.S. it is customary for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses, shoes, hair, nails and makeup. A bride can pay for these or help them if she can afford it. Check David’s Marriage, ebay, or newportnews.com for dresses.
GROOMSMEN: It is also customary for groomsmen to rent their own tuxes and buy their own shoes. TIP: if the men all have black suits, this can be a fantastic saver for them. If it’s a casual outdoor wedding, they can wear tan or khaki pants as well and guayabera shirts.
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FLOWERGIRLS: Check Burlington Coat Factory for inexpensive dresses especially now after Easter. You can find many cute "Easter" dresses than can be used as flower girl dresses.
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Plot a destination wedding/honeymoon to somewhere like St. Thomas, Virgin Islands. Try the Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort. You will save so miuch money, and will have one gorgeous wedding.
A friend who works in marketing suggested this thought to me and I found it very helpful when preparation our wedding. Start a mood board, get a huge sheet of cardboard and start collecting pictures from wedding magazines , recipes of dishes you reckon might go well at your reception, pictures of floral preparations, hairstyles, dresses, fabric samples,,basically anything wedding related. and stick them on your mood board (the sheet of cardboard) . After a while you will doubtless notice a theme start to develop , then you can see how it will work with the budget you have