I am planning a wedding and can only invite 50 guests.Is it proper ediquet to invite guests who are not invited to wedding?
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I am planning a wedding and can only invite 50 guests.Is it proper ediquet to invite guests who are not invited to wedding?
Tags: ediquet, planning a wedding
Actually - it would be rude for you to invite anyone to the bridal shower. A bridal shower is a party put on FOR you by someone either in your wedding party, a fmaily member or a close friend. You should never host your own shower.
Now, if someone else is having a shower for you, the guest list is up to you, and yes it is acceptable for them to invite people you haven’t invited to the wedding.
no this is not right if they not gone be at the wedding why be at the bridal shower
No. Shower guests are expected to bring gifts, so it would be rude to ask them for gifts by inviting them to the shower, and then not invite them to the wedding.
that’s a tough spot to be in, but i think you should probably just invite the guests who will be invited to the wedding. this way if someone wants to give you a gift they can without having the expectation of being invited to the wedding and then feeling slighted if they have given you a gift and then not been invited.
i think most people would understand that sometimes there are limiting factors when it comes to big events like a wedding and they will not hold it against you. good luck with your wedding.
never invite people to a shower and not the wedding. it looks like you just want them to come to bring you gifts. that’s not cool. on the other hand, at my shower, a friend asked me if she could bring a friend who was not invited and i said yes and made sure to tell her that she wasn’t expected to bring anything. but she asked me if she could bring her
It’s really not okay, because the whole purpose of a shower is to have people bring you gifts. You can’t ask for gifts from people and then not invite them to the wedding.
If it is a work shower or you are getting married out of town then this is okay.
Otherwise, plan a lunch at your home to celebrate with your girlfriends and don’t call it a shower.
Don’t expect or even hope for gifts.
no that wouldnt be right its like saying you can buy me things but you are not allowed at my wedding its not right it would kida be like you are using them
No, I think that it would create some hurt feelings even if that isn’t the intention. They may also think that you are just trying to up the number of gifts that you will receive. If anything the bridal shower should be much smaller than the wedding, traditionally it is an intimate group of your female friends and relatives.
Obviously not, how can you expect people to provide you with a shower gift and then not invite them tot he wedding?
It would be EXTREMELY rude to invite people to the shower but not the wedding.
Same goes for the engagement party and bachelor/ette. Any of the guests at those "pre-wedding parties" also MUST be invited to the wedding. There are no exceptions to this basic etiquette rule.