I wаѕ thinking аbουt tһіѕ bесаυѕе mу hubby’s twin brother іѕ getting married аחԁ һе іѕ super caught up іח tһе preparation. Hе even looks аt marriage magazines аחԁ pictures οf dresses wіtһ mу future SIL.
I tһουɡһt tһіѕ wаѕ fаѕсіחаtіחɡ bесаυѕе mу hubby wаѕ very laid back аbουt ουr wedding preparation. Hе wаѕ more οf a “whatever уου want, honey” type οf guy. : )
It’s іחсrеԁіbƖе һοw different tһеу аrе іח regards tο tһіѕ! Tһеу′re identical bу tһе way.
Sο һοw caught up wουƖԁ уου ѕау уουr fiance іѕ іח tһе wedding preparation?
Jυѕt curious. : )
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He pretty much says “uh huh” “Ok” “Sure” and my favorite “Do whatever will make you pleased”. There have been a few things he said no to, but we’re both Gemini’s so I know if I just question him another day he’ll say ok LOL.
He did have a groomzilla moment where he announced loudly “It’s MY wedding” but after I gave him *the look* he went back to playing his video game and hasn’t made a peep since.
My fiance doesn’t care about ANYTHING. It’s really pretty annoying. I want his opinion and he says he just doesn’t have one. How do you NOT have an opinion!? Haha. You’re SIL is lucky to have a guy with that quality! It is pretty odd, you hardly ever hear about a groom who’s super caught up in the preparation. =]
He goes owing to phases. Sometimes he could really care-less. But then when I was going to go buy the pillow, flower girl basket, etc without him, he questioned me to wait because he wanted to come with me and help pick it out. Both, Im very grateful for. I’ve given him the duty of our honeymoon. As long as he can get that together, Ill be pleased!
My fiance is very caught up with the wedding details. He picked out the accent colors and is very vocal about his thoughts on my wedding gown.
I like the fact that he is so caught up because it is “OUR” day contrary to well loved “bridezilla” belief.
Even if it is going to be vital that you engage him, by asking his thoughts on certain aspects, but I caution you ..take baby steps. Start with “Honey, how do you feel about buffet or sit down” for the dinner.
Always start with food
they can relate to that. Then slowly ease into , colors, time of the ceremony, his tuxedo…and there you have it a fully engaged, caught up fiance which will lead to a healthy and pleased PARTNERSHIP in your marriage.
My husband wanted to caught up with certain things. He really wanted to make sure the music was flawless at the ceremony and reception as he has seen many wedding in which it wasn’t and he wanted his different. He was also very caught up in the food. We did a potluck style reception and he wanted to be the one coordinating the food since he wanted to make sure we had food that we liked. Other than that, he completely wanted me to do the rest. He was caught up slightly even if in the alternative of the place we had it. That really he was most picky about without being caught up as much. He just had criteria that a place had to match but didn’t care where I chose as long as all criteria he had was met.
He’s caught up only long enough to open his wallet and pay for things. Works for us!
My fiance is like your hubby, for the most part. “It’s your bag”, he says. I questioned him tonight if he wanted to go with me to meet the photographer I’m considering. Nope.
I’m having a Cinderella wedding, even if, so there are some must haves for him there (or some must NOT haves, I guess….lol) like no pinks or purples (too gay), no prince charming outfits for my nephews (again too gay), and he has to approve the invitations (no cinderella and prince on front, but a castle is ok). (The stuff in parentheses about being gay are his reactions to the thought of those colors, etc.) I’m trying to run thoughts by him but he just kind of just shrugs it off. Oh well. I guess that I’m doing excellent by talking him into a wedding wedding. I guess he always said that if he ever got married it’d just be at the courthouse with maybe 10 people there. If that’s the case I’m doing GREAT…. Church wedding, huge party recption with a current guest list of about 220.
My fiance is pretty relaxed about it. It’s his second marriage so he just keeps telling me that this is my day and we can do it even if I want. But when I do question for input or his thoughts, he does share them with me. We go over a few things together but mainly it is myself, my MOH, and my parents. That also could be the fact he is stationed 1500 miles away from me as well but I do get him caught up.
My fiance is, sadly, more caught up than me in preparation our wedding. He makes all the appointments, we look at all the magazines and websites together, so far he is the only one who has set up a music list, he has told me what color flowers he doesn't like and does like, which ones he likes and doesn't like, we both went to look at bridesmaid dresses and he made the final selection, he and I spent the day looking at linens and table settings together, he is in charge of decorations,…you get the top. It's nice because this is a touch that is vital to both of us obviously but sometime hard because he is soooo caught up and we have different opinions and it's hard to give up what I imagined to compromise. Still, I like spending the time with him and knowing he cares about this day as well.
Not at all. He just stays out of it. Sometimes it really upsets me. I wish he were more caught up, but he says it is a girl thing and just tell him where to show up.
Hi, My Husband was really caught up in preparation our wedding 18 months ago. We would organise our very own “wedding meetings” where we would discuss everything that had to be organised. We sat down with a glass of wine, a pen and paper - try it, it might encourage him a bit! Excellent Luck with the wedding !
My husband was really caught up in preparation: I reckon the only things he wasn’t as attracted in was my bridesmaids clothes, and the selections of the flowers. But we certainly plotted the whole wedding together, step-by-step. It was really nice to share that time with him, and because we were both so into the preparation, the wedding finished up being a really fantastic reflection of us both.
In the beginning, we talked about what we expected and the small wedding was our compromise. Pretty much, other than getting updates, that has been the end of his involvement. His kids, on the other hand, have spent a LOT of time researching, finding deals, suggestions. They are really into the preparation and now that my dress and his vest are done, they are doing most of the stuff.
Currently, they are down to just preparation out the appetizers that will be served (we are having reception at our new home). I gave them my cookbooks and we started trying out recipes this weekend, adding one, eliminating others. This has been kindof fun and foliage me with more time to do other stuff since I just bought a house from a relative and need to do work on that before the wedding reception can be held there (we haven’t went in yet).