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Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by snufkins return

snufkins return — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

Our wedding plan was as follows:

1) Take a day off work together and go to travel agent. We said send us wherever you can abroad for £2000 and we want to get married.

2) They said Jamaica? We said yes

3) We went to the shops on a friday night and I bought my wedding dress from BHS which is a high street chain that sells wedding dresses

4) We flew to Jamiaca 4 months later. When we got there they said what colour flowers does the bride want to hold and my hubbys buttonhole. We picked purple and white.

5) We got married and they booked us in to the fancy hotel restaurant for dinner and made us a chocolate cake with our names on.

So in short neither of us did anything. I dont know why anyone would plan a wedding. We were drinking cocktails on the beach a couple of hours before our ceremony

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by attitudemister

attitudemister — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

i kept out of the way and made a prenuptial agreement

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by Aimee

Aimee — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

The only 2 things I asks my husband to do is show up on time and pay half the bills which he did a great job at.

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

My husband was pretty involved.

We did most of the planning by ourselves, my bridesmaids didn’t do a whole lot, and my mom didn’t really do anything.

I figured it was about me and him, it should be BY me and him.

He…

Arranged meetings with photographers, set the appointment for our engagement photos, called around and got all of the addresses for his half of the guest list, he helped make the favors, He completely took care of the hotel arrangements for guests, he organized the honeymoon, he took care of the rentals, He even was there the morning of helping to set everything up.

He was very helpful, the wedding was a joint effort for us, and reflected OUR taste, not just mine, or that of all the gals I know.. just the two of us.

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by Kelly S

Kelly S — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

Great question! I wanted to have a nice wedding, but I didn’t want
to go broke in the process. We didn’t have financial help. So, because we were sharing the costs and we both wanted a memorable wedding, my fiance helped make all the decisions. He was great- even helped with flowers, invitations, the cake- everything! we turned it into a mutual project.

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by Blue Christian- Miss my baby.

Blue Christian- Miss my baby. — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

My husband took care of his tux and the best man’s tux (we each had only one attendant). He and his family took care of the honeymoon and the photographer, he helped figure out the food with me, and he booked the church for the wedding and reception. He probably did a few other things but I can’t remember. The best was the honeymoon though; he didn’t even tell me where we were going until well after the wedding! It was such a surprise.

He was helpful. I probably annoyed him a bit by showing him every little detail of the plans - clothes, decorations, flowers, on and on. Poor guy. lol

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by jt

jt — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

I do NOT want a wedding. People never believe how much I do NOT want a wedding. I want to elope. My bf does not. I told him we could have a wedding if HE plans it. Just tell me when to show up (I’d get my dress and and pick the bride’s maids. They can decide on a dress for themselves). His response "If you’re serious, I’ll do it."

Of course I’d still much prefer to elope, but I guess I’ve dug a hole for myself.

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by roo2

roo2 — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

My husband and I picked the venue (a B&B), picked out the flowers and cake together…we did it all together, now that I think about it.

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by Rio Madeira

Rio Madeira — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

From what I can remember, my dad picked the ushers and his best man (dur), and probably had some input in the food and choosing the synagogue. But he said that my mom was totally reasonable throughout the process.

Comment on Gentlemen, what was your involvement during the wedding planning? by Ramman

Ramman — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:47:33 +0000

My tuxedo and best man that’s it. I didn’t mind, her father paid for everything else.

Comment on How do you decide which Dj is the best fit for your wedding? by Gillian

Gillian — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:16:41 +0000

We chose a live band because DJs are not as exciting (and honestly, since so few people opt for a live band, people thought it was amazing). We chose a band that we were able to see perform many times at local venues. We knew they were all very talented (each member fo the band holds a music degree). We loved their selection and they offered to learn any songs we wanted.

Comment on How do you decide which Dj is the best fit for your wedding? by Lakers

Lakers — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:16:41 +0000

My main thing for choosing mine was price and professionalism. The guy i chose was the cheapest, but he was still very professional. He has an extensive library, backup equipment, dresses in a suit, and is extremely accommodating to what i want played and when. I would say quote a few different DJ’s, meet with them, and then go from there. GOOD LUCK!!

Comment on How do you decide which Dj is the best fit for your wedding? by rosie

rosie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:16:41 +0000

This web-site might help you out a bit. http://www.hudsonvalleyweddings.com/guide/dj-pick.htm

If you live in the southern california area check out J&M Entertainment. There great

Comment on How do you decide which Dj is the best fit for your wedding? by Shannon

Shannon — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:16:41 +0000

I wanted one who would make sure to play MY playlist, at the times I wanted, and NOT do all the crazy chicken dance, etc. I wanted someone mellow, low key, who didn’t think he/she was the the entertainer of the year. Just my style for music I wanted. And I used this directory to find DJs in my area to interview, hope it helps: http://weddings.weddingchannel.com/local-wedding-vendors.aspx

Comment on How do you decide which Dj is the best fit for your wedding? by Hot Dog Returns

Hot Dog Returns — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:16:41 +0000

Depends on what he’s packing

Comment on How do you decide which Dj is the best fit for your wedding? by Trendy Bride

Trendy Bride — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:16:41 +0000

Finding a good Dj for your wedding is very important because they help to set the tone for the reception.

The best tool for hiring a dj is meeting with the ones you like & finding out what type of music they have in there library, how many years they have been a DJ.

The key to finding the best Dj is there personality are they fun excited about talking about your big day, Who do you connect well with the best.

Are they willing to do everything you ask them for your wedding day?

Find out what type of equipment they use, if they will also annouce things like first dance etc. I have gone to weddings were the Dj wasn’t experienced so the bride was running around to find someone to announce it was time to cut the cake etc, I also have been to a wedding where the Dj was not a good public speaker so he was stuttering over the words ( what a nightmare )

Make sure you give the Dj a timeline so they know how the day is going to go

Having a Dj at your wedding is alot of fun .. having live bands are nice but sometimes it’s harder for guests to request songs because sometimes the band doesn’t know the songs & they are more limited on what they can do ….

Best of Wishes
http://www.trendybride.net

Comment on Recenty engaged . . Any suggestion on wedding planning books? by GilesB

GilesB — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:58:57 +0000

The Collins ‘Weddings’ is quite a good book to start with. It takes you through all the basic options and has lots of lovely colour photos.

It also contains lots of not-so-obvious advice such as where to put bouquets of flowers in the church etc. — I got this info from http://www.fionaswedding.com/news/

Comment on Recenty engaged . . Any suggestion on wedding planning books? by dlgrl=me

dlgrl=me — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:58:57 +0000

don’t know about books, but marthastewart.com has a lot of great wedding ideas. congrats!

Comment on Recenty engaged . . Any suggestion on wedding planning books? by ndvsne1

ndvsne1 — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:58:57 +0000

Personally I don’t believe in that crap. Here’s why, you are going off of what someone else thinks and not what you and your future mate want together. Throw that stuff out the window, sit down together, and come up with a plan on your own. My wife and I did that and had the time of our lives. If your into arts and crafts for example, and your husband is into college football, find something you can do together. One idea, A bowl game + a place that has all sorts of stuff you’re interested in. Go to Hawaii. Plenty of stuff there for both of you. Go to the south, say, Arizona.

Comment on Recenty engaged . . Any suggestion on wedding planning books? by romeo t

romeo t — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:58:57 +0000

GET A WEDDING PLANNER, THEY WILL HELP YOU A LOT. THEY ARE JUST A LITTLE EXPENSIVE BUT AT LEAST YOU HAVE SOMEONE TO BLAME IF THINGS DON’T GO RIGHT IN YOUR WEDDING AND YOU CAN SUE THEM TOO.(I THINK)

Comment on Recenty engaged . . Any suggestion on wedding planning books? by Kate M

Kate M — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:58:57 +0000

Try brides magazine you might get some nice ideas there and also if you can afford it hire a wedding planner they usually do a really nice job and they are worth the money if you can afford it. If not then get your hands on everything you can like books ,magazines whatever and that should give you some ideas really nice ones I would think. Good Luck and Congrats.

Comment on Recenty engaged . . Any suggestion on wedding planning books? by Daphne

Daphne — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:58:57 +0000

I bought the "Dummies Guide to Weddings." It was the best investment that I made. It answered a lot of questions.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Micahs•Mummy

Micahs•Mummy — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

just don’t tell her or ask her any questions. whenever she says anything just be polite and then do what you want. if she asks when you are going wedding dress shopping together just say sorry such and such and i have already arranged to go on this date and i know that you’re already busy.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by briteyes

briteyes — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

You don’t need to involve your mother, nor do you need to tell her that you’re cutting her out of the planning. You and your fiance go ahead and plan the wedding you want, pay for everything yourselves, and don’t ask your mother for help or suggestions.

If she asks you about your wedding plans, try saying things like:
"[Fiance's name] and I are discussing that, and we will let you know if we need anything."
"We have already picked out our favors/flowers/venue, but I appreciate your thoughts."
"Thank you for the idea. I will discuss it with my fiance."
"That’s a very kind offer, but we prefer to handle that ourselves."
"Thank you, but I have already found the dress I plan to wear."

…then change the subject. Be matter-of-fact, don’t fight with her or get emotional, just thank her for her input and move on.

It might help if you can find a small task to give her, something you aren’t concerned about, just to make her feel involved. Putting together baskets for out-of-town guests, buying a guestbook, something like that.

We had a similar issue when we were planning our wedding. Because my mother and I are not close (and she’s mentally unstable), my therapist recommended these techniques for me to keep my mother at arm’s length. My husband and I handled all of the plans ourselves, deflected my mother’s questions, and gave her the small job of getting corsages for the parents. Not only did it work to keep her at bay, but I felt incredibly empowered.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Jenny Lynne

Jenny Lynne — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

My daughter and I are this way, we love each other dearly. I would invite her, but just have a talk with her and say now Mom you know how you are but I want you there but this is my decision.
I would be totally crushed if she did not ask me to be there. One of my fondest memories is getting my wedding dress with my Mother. She had little money, but wanted her daughter to have the wedding she did not have. I picked the one she liked because it was on sale and she loved it. She is gone now, but I treasure that memory.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by angel

angel — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

Cant you just tell her exactly that!
Let her go with you but tell her you are choosing, it is such an important time for you r parents too even though it is your big day
I bet you tell her to not give an opinion then she will. She wont want to miss out on it!

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Madison

Madison — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

Just let her know you value her opinion but you would like to start the planning yourself. Tell her you will share the information you find with her and maybe invite her to come over and look at dresses online but you would rather go to the store yourself to try it on. You can then send her pictures by phone so that she can see you trying on the dresses but not be there to give her opinion.

Also if you have picked some colors out have her go to the store and try to find complimentary colors. She will feel she is helping you and you will still be planning yourself. Tell her to match flower colors with the materials she has found.

Ask her to work on the ceremony timeline and then the reception timeline. This will keep her very busy and she won’t want to bother you with anything else.

It gives her something to do with planning and gives you freedom.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by ?The Mrs.?

?The Mrs.? — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

Let her be involved, but make sure she knows this is your wedding and you are choosing things you like. There is a happy medium.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Cinner

Cinner — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

A) You are the bride and it really is all about you. You should have whatever you want and have whoever you want involved.

However:

B) If you expect her to pay for it you might want to find some compromise. I am a mother and if my daughter said this to me after I gave birth to her and raised her, I would be crushed. I suggest you tell her how you feel and agree to boundaries with her.

Good luck and Congrats!

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by laplandfan

laplandfan — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

You will just have to tell her straight that you are doing all the planning.
BUT think hard. Is there just something small that she could do? Maybe ordering the button holes or doing something minor just to keep her happy.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Perse

Perse — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

I wouldn’t tell her you don’t want her involved at all. What I would do is determine some maybe more menial duties that you’re not as interested in or don’t have strong feelings about and allow your mother to help you in planning those parts of the wedding, but tell her the big decisions are all you.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Don't Blame me

Don't Blame me — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

I asked a question about intivting my FML dress shopping yesterday because I was worried about the same thing. Me and my mom have very different views, but this is supposed to be a once in a life time thing and I would not want her to miss it for the world. Just tell your mom, "Mom, I know helping me plan my wedding is important to you, and we both have very different views of how it should be. I would love to include you, but cannot deal with unwarrented stress I want you to be there so we can both have these beautiful memories, but I have to ask that if our opinions collide too much that you just offer your support."

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Suz123

Suz123 — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

First step, you don’t take her money to pay for the wedding. If you take her money, you must be willing to accept her input.

If bride and groom plan and pay for the wedding themselves, then they can make all final decisions.

But if you accept a parent’s money for wedding expenses, then you must also accept parent’s input.

In your case, honesty is the best policy. Say, "Groom and I have decided to pay for our wedding ourselves. In our planning, we may be making some decisions that you may not like or may not approve, so we don’t feel right about accepting your money. We thank you for your generosity, but we feel it would be best to plan and pay for the wedding ourselves."

Honesty and advance warning are best.

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by claremont9

claremont9 — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

You are going to have to be straight with her from the utset otherwise it will spiral out of control;. Believe me I know. Dont let you day end in a fisaco

Comment on How do you tell your mother that you do not want her involved in planning your wedding? by Messykatt

Messykatt — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:22:24 +0000

Don’t tell your mom you don’t want her involved in your wedding planning. You can get your point across in a much more positive way, and that’s really hurtful to say it like that.

Instead, try to identify a couple things she can help you with. She can’t be completely worthless! I’m thinking of things like favors, centerpieces, even invites, etc. Then have a chat with her and tell her you’d love to get her ideas on these things, and be specific about colors, etc.

This way, if she mentions dress shopping, you can tell her that’s one of the things you’re doing on your own.

Also, if she’s paying for it, then you definitely have to let her give input on the above and probably more. In that case, she’s the hostess of the event, not you, and if she doesn’t like something, she does have the right to speak out about it.

Comment on How do you start wedding planning? by Tweety

Tweety — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 11:00:42 +0000

There are many good books on the market, and many websites about wedding planning. Talk to friends/family who recently got married. If you don’t have the time, hire a wedding planner.

Comment on How do you start wedding planning? by abc

abc — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 11:00:42 +0000

start with a fiance, then a budget…….

Comment on How do you start wedding planning? by Kitty

Kitty — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 11:00:42 +0000

The best way to start is to agree on having a small wedding. Then your planning is reduced to a minimum.

Comment on How do you start wedding planning? by cfromplanetz

cfromplanetz — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 11:00:42 +0000

Congratulations on your engagement!
First of all you need to set a budget, if you don’t the wedding can cost more than you can imagine. I used "Bridal Bargains" by Denise Feilds. They had some great ideas for any size wedding.
You may want to attend a local bridal show. They can give you some great ideas. You can also meet and get samples from many different types of vendors (DJ, caterers, dresses, etc.)
Also, check out theknot.com, they have wonderful checklists.
Good luck!

Comment on I am helping a friend DJ a wedding reception. Can you suggest some songs/artists? by TAlex88

TAlex88 — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 07:12:41 +0000

Here’s a few:

Please don’t stop the music- Rihanna
Disturbia- Rihanna
Hot n cold- Katy Perry
Right now- Akon
Miss independent- Ne-yo
Green light- Andre 3000 and john legend

Comment on I am helping a friend DJ a wedding reception. Can you suggest some songs/artists? by jo

jo — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 07:12:41 +0000

I’m doing the same thing in about a month. Here are some popular wedding/love songs.

From This Moment On. -Shania Twain
The Way You Love Me -Faith Hill
You’re Still The One -Shania Twain
I’ll Be There For You -Bon Jovi
I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing -Aerosmith
Hero -Enrique Iglesias
Shania Twain - You’ve got a way
When a Man Loves a Woman -Percy Sledge
A Moment Like This -Kelly Clarkson
We Belong Together Mariah Carey
always be my baby - mariah carey
Amazed - Lonestar
Bless the broken Road - Rascal Flatts
Everything I Do, I Do It For You - Bryan Adams
Forever and for always - Shania Twain
Far Away - Nickelback
I got a feelin’ - billy currington
I will always love you - Whitney Houston
I’ll Be - Edwin McCain
Iris - The Goo Goo Dolls
It’s your love - Tim McGraw & Faith Hill
Me And You - Kenny Chesney
Memories Of Us - Keith Urban
My Best Friend - Tim McGraw
No One-Alicia Keys
Stay With Me (Brass Bed) – Josh Gracin
Stick with you - Pussycat Dolls
Time After Time - Cyndi Lauper
Why dont you & I - Chad Kroger & Santana
you always be my baby - mariah carey
you and me - lifehouse
I Got You Babe -Sonny and Cher
Because You Loved Me -Celine Dion (mother-son song)
Beautiful ~ James Blunt

good luck!

Comment on Does anyone know a good wedding videographer?? by Matt/David

Matt/David — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 16:26:52 +0000

http://www.DuetFilms.com - check out the online videos and related information.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by my_opinion

my_opinion — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

I’m a Marketing Manager so I plan events regularly, so maybe it’s not fair that I answer this… but I was proposed to at the end of April of 2006 and had our wedding planned (reception place booked, photographer booked, dress picked out, etc) by the middle of June. 6 weeks….

My first thought was about the reception (generally the most expensive). However, I handled all planning the same way — TONS of internet research!! When I found 3 options that were ones I not only liked but were in my budget, I got my fiancee involved. Where we agreed, we booked. No thinking it over, no "let’s sleep on it" nothing. Just move forward.

The thing that took the longest? I had my dress made… took 6 weeks.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by Solstice Bride

Solstice Bride — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

We went together to several places and decided on the venue, then we found an officiant (book him/her early, as they book well in advance). Book the photographer, caterer, band/dj, early on as well for the same reason.

Who makes which decisions is entirely up to the couple. Usually it’s the bride who makes most of them, as most men don’t want to have much to do with it, but I see that’s not necessarily the case here.

I got most of our things online-between ebay, Exclusivelyweddings.com, and from "finder sites" for the officiant and bakery. They have those sites for photographers and caterers too. It takes a lot of legwork out of the equation.

We’ve got five months to go. I started the planning when we first were engaged with 19 months to go to the big day (most people felt that was far too soon but I don’t regret it) We’re still finalizing the details, like the chat with the caterer about the menu, the final visit with the Reverend, making the favors and such.

My fiance isn’t into the planning, but he did want to be consulted before any final decisions were made.

Congratulations.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by MelB

MelB — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

First was finding the venue. That helped steer us towards our date. Next was the music, flowers, bridesmaids/groomsman attire. I actually made every decision on my own (except setting the date), but that’s just me. I had a definite idea of what I wanted, so it made all the decisions very easy. I found browsing magazines gave me lots of ideas and inspiration to choose from, and also things I was sure I did not want too. The whole process started last year around this time, the wedding is in July. You can do it in much shorter time, I just like to plan, plan, and plan again!

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by Nanniekc

Nanniekc — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

First thing is make a budget, u can do this on the web site
The Knot, this is a great starting point.

I guess first thing I thought about is best man and maid of honor!

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by Jamie's Girl

Jamie's Girl — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

We chose the date first…that was a joint decision. I picked my dress. He will be picking out his tux. We originally planned to have the wedding in my parents home (they’re building it now), but due to construction hold-ups we’re using the house that my fiance and I are renting…I didn’t want an in church wedding and he wanted something small and indoors. We handmade the invitations as a team and designed the programs. I picked out the cake (all he said was that he wanted a traditional white cake- no cupcakes, no doughnuts). We both had input for the other food. I picked out all the flowers and decorations. We picked out the color to paint the living room together. He figured out how to manage the limited parking. I purchased a few books from Books A Million’s bridal section and a few issues of Martha Stewart’s magazine. We will have been engaged for a year the month of our wedding, but we didn’t start planning until August for April.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by layla983

layla983 — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

The dress & the place came up pretty quickly. I was pretty set on my place, then I found a dress before offically booking my location. I was worried about getting it altered & such. The whole planning, during the past 4 months (getting married this March) took only about 6 weeks. I found everything I wanted very quickly. I’ve made most of the decisions, the groom threw in his opinions & supports in there from time to time as well though. As far as finding things I did look online for the most part, but even that I didn’t do alot, most played out in my head. The only thing I bought a magazine for was for the cake. I couldn’t find a cake online, but I managed to find a UK magazine just for pictures of wedding cakes.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by shannonscorpio

shannonscorpio — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

Sign up for My Knot on http://www.theknot.com. I don’t think I’d be able to do my wedding without it. It gives you a month-by-month check list of what you should be doing and thinking about. It’s kept me very organized and very sane. On top of the checklist, there are pages and pages of online advice (from how to address invites to how to unask a best man), style ideas, and even a store for favors and that stuff. Congrats!

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by Angel Goddess

Angel Goddess — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

My husband had lots of great ideas for our wedding and wanted to be very involved in the planning so I let him take the reigns; especially since we got married in his church. He also made our wedding cake since he is a pastry chef with over 15 years experience. We went to book stores and bought wedding planner books - but for us, we got engaged 3 months after meeting so we really took our time planning the wedding down to the very last detail. We got engaged in 2003 and married in 2005 - what was great is we never felt rushed and everything came together perfectly.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by nanny

nanny — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

The first thing you have to do is pick the date, and the first person to contact is whomever will be marrying you. We contacted the priest, because that date was most important to book first, and we had to have premarital counselling. Next was booking the venue, because we had a ballpark idea of number of guests, and the catering. Guest lists were next, along with deciding on attendants. In most cases, you need 8 months or a year, depending on where you live, because of the venue mostly. Bride and groom made decisions together, unless it was stuff like wedding favours and decorating, which he really didn’t care about. Friends were not involved at all in decision making or planning at all - mostly got advice from family members.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by piepiepie

piepiepie — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

We told our parents and they started planning. We OK everything.

Comment on What steps did you take when planning your wedding? by sparkleythings_4you

sparkleythings_4you — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:21:54 +0000

Although we have postponed our wedding until next year, we are still planning it, so this is what we did.

1. Date and Budget

2. Venue

3. Guest list

4. Catering

5. Best Man and Bridesmaid

6. Dresses and suits etc

7. Flowers

8. Transport

The date was mutually agreed between the two of us, as was the guest list and budget.

My groom to be decided on food, transport, best man and what they will be wearing. He also chose the rings.

I have chosen my dress and the cake and done most of the research about venues, we have not yet decided on a venue yet as we changed the date and our original choice is not available for our new date. I also thought about bridesmaids, but decided not to have any. I’ve also chosen the flowers.

Our final choice of venue will be a joint decision.

I have not involved any friends in making any decisions. I have consulted my mum for a second opinion on my dress though!!

I found help on line mostly, but I did look at one magazine and got some ideas from there. It took us around 4 months to get everything organised before we post poned (so my b/f can finish his exams at work before we marry)

Comment on I'm thinking of opening my own Bridal shop/ Wedding planning business. What kind of classes should I take? by Pop

Pop — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 10:59:00 +0000

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Comment on Why is planning a wedding so darn stressful? by darkforces_uk

darkforces_uk — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 08:35:27 +0000

Hi,

Obviously I cannot comment on your particular situation but
I hired a professional wedding planner to plan and manage my wedding.

She was good to work with and I was happy.
But after I read this guide I really felt that I paid too much for my wedding planner.

This guide contains everything I needed to know to plan my wedding from start to finish.

Here is the site: http://weddingplanning.wares-are.us/

Comment on Why is planning a wedding so darn stressful? by Teresa

Teresa — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 08:35:27 +0000

Planning a wedding is stressful because it is important and probably the biggest party you will ever have, and its more like a show then a party, and you don’t do it often.
So having said that, it is easier on guys because they just have to dress and show up.
Still, talk to him, ask his opinion if you need it, ask for help if you need it, but depend on your bridesmaid for most of it.
Congrats, good luck and enjoy.