mу fiance іѕ іח iraq, һе left a few days аftеr wе ɡοt engaged bυt i really want tο ѕtаrt preparation mу wedding. ѕο іѕ tһеrе anyway i саח ԁο tһіѕ wіtһ out һіm
I would definantly go for it, but talk to him about it first. You need to be able to discuss budget and all that as the absolute first thing.
Next you need to discuss what sort of wedding you want, lavish vs intimate, habitual vs contemporary etc. Then you need to find out what your priorities are. Maybe he doesnt mind you preparation the wedding, as long as he gets to do this or that. He might not want to spend huge on the transport but really wants a excellent photographer.
You also need a timeline. You dont want to assume he wont mind getting married a month after he gets home, because it might bother him. Could also go the other way, and he wants to marry you as soon as possible!
DO NOT assume that just because he is a man he doesnt care about it, or doesnt mind not being caught up. My military fiance is just as excited about preparation our wedding as I am, so we are doing as much as we can while he is home and when he goes away I only do the things i have to.
So it depends on how much communication you have with him while he is away. You never know, you might call him up and question these questions, and he could say he doesnt mind and for you to do whatever you like!
Of course! My man is back form Iraq and in fighter pilot training in MS, I send him links of what’s on my mind and we look over stuff together on the computer, just fine.
Guys usually dont get involvedi n the preparation too much anyway
I agree with "me". When My husband & I were preparation to get married he made the preparations for our house. I made the wedding preparations. Weddings are more for the bride, than the groom. I reckon if it was strictly up to the guys they would choose to elope. LOL. I wish you all the best. Tell your fiance that my family will be praying for him, & we appreciate his service to our people.
I reckon you can start preparation for your wedding but don’t go for any action, better wait for him, for two reasons:
1- It makes him fell that he’s very vital and he’s a part of it ( the wedding plot).
2- It makes him fell that his other half is waiting for him and keeps him just looking for the date to see you.
It depends on how far away your wedding is. I loved going to visit the venue options and vendors with my husband and he, suprisingly, had opinions about a lot of stuff. Even if, if the wedding is less than 6 months after he comes back then you will have to plot. So basically, hold off as long as you can but once the 6 month mark hits, you need to start preparation without him.
BUT What I would not do just yet is bombarding his inbox with a bunch of options here and there about everything you want to show him. My fiance went NUTS last year when I got excited about preparation (we have a 2011 wedding date). He didn’t want to see all of that.. he got pretty overwhelmed with it.
So what I’ve been doing is collecting the things I like and made a wedding palette, made notes and stuff in a scrapbook. You could do a few color options. You should be able to "organize" the stuff down to the dollar sign enough that by the time he returns from Iraq, he’d be sooo impressed with your wedding preparation scrapbook and the choosing and whatnot would be a breeze!
I’ve been doing this for the past year without him really knowing about it and I just pulled it out after Christmas and showed it to him. He was like "Now that’s what I’m talkin about!" I gave him a marker, told him to X the ones he does not like, check the ones he does… I’m currently looking owing to it and it’s making our choices so much simpler and we still have a year and half until our wedding day! I’m very pleased with this method. It’s also been really wallet forthcoming that we’re really under the budget because of it! Now we can spend that extra money for a small a touch special for our wedding day!!!
Of course you can plot your wedding without him but why would you? Isn’t it his wedding too? You can communicate with him and get his take on things like wedding
colors, who he wants as his best man and how many bridesmaids and groomsmen
he wants. You do the actual contacting and preparation but try and keep him up to speed on things. Listen to his opinions as well. Place thoughts in letters or e-mails if he
has access to the Internet. You will be glad you did. Congrats on your pending marriage and I hope your future husband comes back home safe.
I would definantly go for it, but talk to him about it first. You need to be able to discuss budget and all that as the absolute first thing.
Next you need to discuss what sort of wedding you want, lavish vs intimate, habitual vs contemporary etc. Then you need to find out what your priorities are. Maybe he doesnt mind you preparation the wedding, as long as he gets to do this or that. He might not want to spend huge on the transport but really wants a excellent photographer.
You also need a timeline. You dont want to assume he wont mind getting married a month after he gets home, because it might bother him. Could also go the other way, and he wants to marry you as soon as possible!
DO NOT assume that just because he is a man he doesnt care about it, or doesnt mind not being caught up. My military fiance is just as excited about preparation our wedding as I am, so we are doing as much as we can while he is home and when he goes away I only do the things i have to.
So it depends on how much communication you have with him while he is away. You never know, you might call him up and question these questions, and he could say he doesnt mind and for you to do whatever you like!
Of course! My man is back form Iraq and in fighter pilot training in MS, I send him links of what’s on my mind and we look over stuff together on the computer, just fine.
Guys usually dont get involvedi n the preparation too much anyway
I agree with "me". When My husband & I were preparation to get married he made the preparations for our house. I made the wedding preparations. Weddings are more for the bride, than the groom. I reckon if it was strictly up to the guys they would choose to elope. LOL. I wish you all the best. Tell your fiance that my family will be praying for him, & we appreciate his service to our people.
I reckon you can start preparation for your wedding but don’t go for any action, better wait for him, for two reasons:
1- It makes him fell that he’s very vital and he’s a part of it ( the wedding plot).
2- It makes him fell that his other half is waiting for him and keeps him just looking for the date to see you.
I wish that he’ll return to you soon and safe.
It depends on how far away your wedding is. I loved going to visit the venue options and vendors with my husband and he, suprisingly, had opinions about a lot of stuff. Even if, if the wedding is less than 6 months after he comes back then you will have to plot. So basically, hold off as long as you can but once the 6 month mark hits, you need to start preparation without him.
Yeah, you could!
BUT What I would not do just yet is bombarding his inbox with a bunch of options here and there about everything you want to show him. My fiance went NUTS last year when I got excited about preparation (we have a 2011 wedding date). He didn’t want to see all of that.. he got pretty overwhelmed with it.
So what I’ve been doing is collecting the things I like and made a wedding palette, made notes and stuff in a scrapbook. You could do a few color options. You should be able to "organize" the stuff down to the dollar sign enough that by the time he returns from Iraq, he’d be sooo impressed with your wedding preparation scrapbook and the choosing and whatnot would be a breeze!
I’ve been doing this for the past year without him really knowing about it and I just pulled it out after Christmas and showed it to him. He was like "Now that’s what I’m talkin about!" I gave him a marker, told him to X the ones he does not like, check the ones he does… I’m currently looking owing to it and it’s making our choices so much simpler and we still have a year and half until our wedding day! I’m very pleased with this method. It’s also been really wallet forthcoming that we’re really under the budget because of it! Now we can spend that extra money for a small a touch special for our wedding day!!!
Of course you can plot your wedding without him but why would you? Isn’t it his wedding too? You can communicate with him and get his take on things like wedding
colors, who he wants as his best man and how many bridesmaids and groomsmen
he wants. You do the actual contacting and preparation but try and keep him up to speed on things. Listen to his opinions as well. Place thoughts in letters or e-mails if he
has access to the Internet. You will be glad you did. Congrats on your pending marriage and I hope your future husband comes back home safe.
You can’t. It’s against God’s law.